16 May 2010, Comments (4)

Are you a sex addict, or merely a dirty slut?

Author: Helen

Sex Addiction is the popular indisposition du jour for the privileged and famous. First it was all over the Tiger Woods coverage, now we’re told Russell Brand’s been suffering from this terrible addiction.

It’s interesting that behaviour similar to that which constitutes “sex addiction” in men is described as “hookup culture” and sluttiness in women. (And by “similar behaviour” I’m really being generous to the Brands and Woods of this world. I haven’t heard of any young female undergraduates maintaining a team of minions to bring multiple sexual partners to them.) As a “sex addict”, you can obviously get away with a lot more than some girl who is merely a slutty slut, and enhance your fame and reputation as a wild playboy at the same time. And if you’re a popular male comedian checking into rehab for your Sex Addiction, then you are suffering from a Condition and deserve sympathy, unlike the disgusting hoydens who are destroying Western civilisation with their wanton behaviour.

Just as an aside, the description of Brand’s father and their sex-tourist trip to Hong Kong, where Dad taught his son to treat women as a commodity without any corresponding Dadly education about condoms and sexual health: what would the commentary be like if his mum had been the one on the trip? I can just imagine.

Conservatives have rushed into print with numerous articles of the “Hookup Culture Hurts Women” type. This is how it’s framed. If Hookup Culture hurts men, or boys, it’s left dangling if you’ll excuse the double-entendre, because the boys/men in these effusions are either (1) Only out for one thing, because they’re totally rooled by their biological urges and can’t help it, or (2) invisible – the writer is interested in focusing on female participants as slutty sluts, but not so interested in their partners, who are entitled to the behaviour (see (1).)

No double standard here at all.

Comments (4) »

  • Ann O'Dyne says:

    Madonna Ciccone has always worked hard to balance the female side of this issue. She used, abused, and flung away legendary swiver Warren*Beatty, a first for him I think.

    Re Tiger and Russell: their personality trait is obsessiveness.
    obsessive about golf, and then about swiving.
    Mr Brand was obsessive about drug use, then sex, then yoga.
    He does everything obsessively. Presently it is marriage, and fiancee Katy has called him a GroomZilla.

    I have an Obsessive friend whose phases have been Educational Achievement, then heroin, then supreme physical fitness, then big big business success, presently his obsession is mountain biking.
    I don’t know much about Obsessiveness yet, but will confess when I start my sixth blog.

  • Kath Lockett says:

    Obsessiveness maybe, but it’s still an unfair double standard that allows boys to screw around, get found out and then seek forgiveness and treatment for ‘sex addiction’.

    I’ve often commented that none of them seem to ever seek forgiveness or treatment for ‘Being an Utter Selfish Wanker’ addiction or similar!

  • Bwca Brownie says:

    may I mention all the silly magazines and their relentless ‘poor lonely partnerless Jennifer*Aniston’ stories, when in actual fact JA is very cleverly living every males dream-life, by rumpling the bedding with anybody she wants. She’s had more boyfriends than Kylie Mole … oops … Mynogew. It must be driving bogan Brad crazy, since he is chained to ‘Lips’ Jolie, and may not seek extra curricular without expose by the paps. Go Jen.

  • Fascinating quandary. As a qualified dirty lifestyle slut, men are not getting away with the ‘addiction’ clause any longer. In the cheap and nasty hookup culture, women are eschewing men who get around too much for their own good: they are easily spotted because they can’t help bragging about it! With centuries of practise, women tend to discretion where as boysluts go for the bugle. In my humble op.

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